First of all, we had only been dating a month before family issues arose. I respect my girlfriend's privacy and will not disclose all that happened in those few days, but it ended up with her family no longer in contact with her or me, through no fault of our own.
Jordan and I were soon in the market for a rental to live in. Jordan had a new job in a Chinese reataurant and I was feverishly looking for work. My family decided to move before christmas of that year, and we were left with very little money and even less time to establish ourselves on our own.
We lament to this day that we wish we had had more time to look for a better apartment and save more money. It would have saved a lot of grief. Needless to say our experience was less than satisfactory, not because of the space. Our place was actually quite nice, and big for an apartment which was perfect for us and our two new dogs. (Which cost us a whopping $600 in pet fees!) The management was so nosy and nitpicky. We had hick-town neighbours who fought every night which we could hear from our bedrooms, they had what seemed like ten thousand children who cried and yelled and generally made the peaceful existance we were seeking unattainable.
Never the less we soldiered on. I got a job at last, and also was soon working part time at the Chinese place with Jordan as well. We found it hard to make ends meet, but somehow we did. We existed that way for about seven months, all on our own. (Something my moronic siblings save one could never do) We were proud of ourselves, but eager to move out.
We decided that, to save up some money, we should ask my mother if we could move into her old house that she was yet to be rid of. No sooner has we moved than we were both rudely dumped from our jobs. My hours dried up, and the Chinese people went all discriminatory on us, even though we were clearly the hardest working employees.
We struggled after that, but we always had each other to get us through. It has been a long journey here over the past year and a half. I have since obtained my Real Estate license and have achieved some good early success. Now with baby on the way and due here by February, we are finally getting somewhere.
Both Jordan and I agree that the whole journey has made us a stronger couple. We spend and have spent almost every hour of our time together since that first kiss, and our friends marvel at how we don't grow sick of each other. Honestly, I couldn't be happier about our relationship. It is completely open and honest, we love one another's company (and are, as I discovered, completely lost when the other is not around!), and while there are trials in every relationship, we have taken on ours in-stride. I wouldn't be the happy man I am today without her support and love, and as much as I try to be that rock for her, I can't help but feel she gives me so much more.
So the times of frustration are nearing an end. Soon I will be up in our nice new house with my beautiful "mom" to be! There is a real sense of accomplishment, and I am starting to see it from my Mum now. I know she is proud of me, just like Jordan is.
And like all things, I am a true believer in the philosophy that is the journey, not the destination, that gives us the building blocks of character and makes us who were are.
If you read this, thanks for everything Jordan. I couldn't do it without your constant love and support. I love you and our soon to be son/daughter more than any words I can imagine...forever, always, and even then.
No comments:
Post a Comment